Learning to Just Be
So many of us today are performance driven people. In the American culture, in which I was born into, it’s how we are raised. We have performance evaluations. We get grades in our school system based on performance. Our professional athletes are paid exorbitant amounts of money based on their ability to perform in a sport. We have performance awards. Even the idea of Santa Claus is based on performance. If you are good, he will come with lots of toys. If you are bad, you will get a lump of coal or no toys at all.
I am not against awards for performance. I am not against trying to better oneself. I am not against acting right and doing the right things. But, when we live our lives with a performance-based mentality then we will struggle to just be. It’s been said before that we are not human doings, we are human beings. In other words, it’s not about what we do, it’s about we who “be”. I know that is improper grammar, but it makes the point.
What you do should flow out of who you are. When what you do doesn’t flow out of who you then you are a fake, a hypocrite. We all have been that hypocrite at times. I believe that God is more concerned with who we are than what we do.
With that in mind, here are a couple of areas that I believe we just need to be.
There is no one else like you. You are unique. You are a one of a kind original. God designed you to be that way. Yet, so many of us are not happy with ourselves. We are always comparing ourselves to someone else, wishing we were them. For all you know, there may be someone looking at you wishing they were you. I know that some may find that hard to believe, but I know there are many people around the world that would love to live my life because I have running water, indoor plumbing and plenty of food to eat.
My point here is that all of us just need to learn to be ourselves. Don’t try to be someone you are not. Just be you. As a friend of mine says, “Be you because you are terrible at being someone else.”
One will never be happy until they are truly themselves. You might counter with, “But, I am not happy with myself.” And that’s okay. If there are things you can change, then change them. The important part is that you learn to be happy with you. Happiness is a state of mind. No one can take it from you, and no one can give it to you. It’s a decision that you make. As the popular song says, “Don’t Worry, Be Happy.”
Be At Peace
Peace is another one of those states of mind. You choose to keep your peace. No one can give it to you, no one can take it from you. You choose to be in a state of peace. Sure, you may be facing situations that would seek to disturb your peace, but you still can remain at peace. Life will always have something going on with it. There are always going to be areas of unrest, uneasiness, and uncomfortableness. But, you can remain peaceful through it all. Whenever you find yourself in a place of distress, learn how to bring yourself back to a place of peace.
This is why you were born: to be loved. You were created to be loved. Now, you may not have received that love from your parents as one should, but you have always been loved by God. No matter the circumstances of your birth, you have a purpose. You have been born to be loved.
You can’t earn love. All you can do is receive love. Love is a gift to be received. Many of us have trouble with receiving love because of things that have happened to us (abuse, betrayal, etc.), but when we are able to open our hearts to the love of God, we will find our purpose.
These are just a few areas that we need to learn to “be”. I will be posting more areas that we need to just be in. Remember, you are a human being, not a human doing. What you do needs to come out of who you are