You Were Born to be Loved!

You Were BornDeep on the inside of every human being is the inherent need to be loved, to know that they have value and worth.  No one can escape it nor deny it.  Some people try to act all macho and tough as if they don’t need to be loved, or that they don’t need anybody, but it is not true.  We all have the need to be loved, to know that we matter.

That inherent desire is hardwired into every single human being by our Creator.  The Bible tells us that God is love.  It also describes that God created man in His image and likeness.  We were created out of love, to love and to be loved.

It’s been proven that babies need human contact.  They need to be loved on.  They need that one-on-one attention.

As children are growing up, they want to be loved by their parents.  They want their parents to notice them.  I cannot count how many times, as a parent, I have heard one of my children say, “hey Dad, watch me. Hey, Dad, did you see me do that?  Hey, Dad, I can do this.” It’s all an attempt for me to pay attention to them, thus letting them know that they matter to me.

Teens, even though they certainly don’t act like it, want their parents’ approval, attention, and affection.  They are testing their boundaries as they begin to spread their wings of independence.  But they subconsciously want the safety of their parents’ boundaries.  They want to know that if they fail, their parents will be there to catch them.  Even the most rebellious teen wants someone to care about them.

That’s one reason why gangs are so attractive to some teens.  The gang offers love, family, acceptance and a place to belong.  Even though the love is misconstrued, the members feel loved.

As we mature, we look for a spouse to love and to love us.  We then want to create children to love.  Why do we have kids?  We know that they are a lot of work, very costly, and there’s a definite possibility that they will rebel, not listen and could reject us.  Yet, we continue to produce children because of the love that we want to give them, and receive from them.

We were born to be loved.

We were born to live in love.

We were born to love.

Love is at the core of our being because we were created in God’s image and He is love.  I wish that we could say that we are love, but we cannot.  Sin has distorted us, handicapped us, and made us inhumane to the point that we can utterly hate someone to the point of murder.  Hate is so ugly.

Hate causes us to devalue someone’s life.

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“winter” (CC BY-SA 2.0) by shioshvili, text added, flickr.com

Hate causes us to want to hurt them.

Hate can destroy us.

We were born to love, not to hate.  We were born to be loved, not to be hated.

If we could only learn to receive God’s love, we would be changed.  If we can wake up every day realizing that we were born to be loved by Him, it would make the biggest difference.  I have been practicing that lately.  Each morning as I lay in my bed before I get up, and each night before I go to sleep, I repeat to myself, “I was born to be loved.”

Of course, the thoughts of all that I do wrong come through my head, but I quickly silence them by reminding myself that God doesn’t love me on the basis of what I do.  He loves me because of who He is.

That’s the beauty of loving others.  I don’t have to love people based on what they do or don’t do.  I can love them because I choose to.  It’s hard sometimes because of people’s rejection and attitudes towards me.  However, when I realize, and fully grasp, the fact that I was born to be loved and that I am loved immensely by the Father then I can reflect that love to others.

When I allow myself to be full of God’s love then I can give it away because I have a never ending supply.

As I realize how much He loves me and I look at others and realize that He loves them that much too, then should loving them be an issue for me?  It shouldn’t be.  It’s only when I let my personal judgments and critical thoughts about that person get in the way that I will stop loving them.  When I see them as God sees them, I will love them.  When I look at them through my human, imperfect eyes I may or may not love them. 

My earthly love tends to be conditional, which really isn’t love at all.  See my blog on Unconditional Love is an Oxymoron for a deeper discussion on this.

God’s love is unconditional because it’s based upon who He is rather than our actions.  What if we did the same?  What if we stopped looking at people’s actions as a basis for our love for them?  What if we just looked at them and realized their number one purpose in life is to be loved and our number one purpose in life was to love them?

I think the world would be a better place.

You were born to be loved!

One Comment On “You Were Born to be Loved!”

  1. Ruth Young

    Yes and amen! Created for Love! excellent insight.

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